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FORGIVENESS

  Hey Guys, It’s been a while here. How have you all been? Let me just share something with you. FORGIVENESS …….Forgiveness involves willfully putting aside feelings of resentment toward someone who has committed a wrong, been unfair or hurtful, or otherwise harmed you in some way. Forgiveness is not merely accepting what happened or ceasing to be angry. Rather, it involves a voluntary transformation of your feelings, attitudes, and behavior, so that you are no longer dominated by resentment and can express compassion, generosity, or the like toward the person who wronged you. Forgiveness is the act of intentionally letting go of anger and resentment towards someone who has harmed you. It can help you feel more peaceful and in control of your life, and can lead to feelings of compassion and empathy for the person who hurt you. Forgiveness is different from forgetting or excusing the harm that was done, and it doesn't necessarily mean making up with the person who caused it. T...
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Social Media & Relationships: The BAD & The UGLY

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There are many positives in negatives with the use of social media. I see that it gives us the ability to connect with each other from far away with things like Skype, Snap chat, Facebook and many more. On the other hand, I see the way it puts pressure on our relationships to be perfect, increases unfaithfulness and increases jealousy. With things like “relationship goals," “friendship goals” and “family goals,” there is a sense of failure if your relationships aren’t “picture perfect."      First, I want to talk about jealousy. It is part of every type of relationship and to a certain extent, is normal. But now, there seems to be an influx of what we get jealous of. Who she has on her Snapchat best friends, who is the girl that tweeted your boyfriend, who commented on her Instagram picture, and so on. This creates such a strain on relationships that they usually are more likely to fail. Without the use of social media, I believe that relationships w...
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HEALING

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                                                    HEALING ..... As a lady, the first thing to put in place before you get married is to HEAL . Heal completely from your past. Heal from the dysfunctionality of your background. Heal from your EX . The journey of HEALING is between you and God , not between you and your husband. There are wounds that only God can help you mend. The danger of not healing before you say I DO is that you begin to bleed on the one who did not injure you. One of the signs that you need healing is that you overreact. Overreacting to things is a sign that you are seeing someone else in your spouse. Sometimes you are not responding to the person he reminds you of. You are seeing your DAD in him, you are seeing your EX in him, you are seeing the person who tried to rape you in him and you are seeing the person who shattered you...
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ARE YOU DATING OR YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP?

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  Hi friends, It’s been a while here and thank you for always reading through this blog. This post will teach you and open your heart to things that will help your relationship. First, let me ask you this questions; Are you dating? Are you in a relationship? It’s quite difficult to answer these questions if in the first place you are not sure of the differences between them. The difference between dating and being in a relationship comes down to intention along with the trajectory. Specifically, dating is all about getting to know someone romantically, while being in a relationship means that dating partners have already committed to one another and intend to (hopefully) cultivate their connection at least for the time being. Your charge is to learn about the other person and discover if you are compatible if you share values and interests, and if you are sexually attracted to the person, how you feel when you are together and apart. There is no or less commitment to dating. ...
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TRUE LOVE; DEFINITION OF YOURSELF

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True love is magical. True love is mystical . . .  Right? Well, kind of. But it’s more than that, as anyone in a relationship can tell you. Read on to find things you need to know about true love. Don’t fall in love, or think you’re in love, just because you want to find yourself. Your identity is not to be someone’s other half ,  it i s to be yourself! Don ’ t get so swept up in your partner that you become them. You don’t need to be the number one fan of their favorite band or read all the books they read. Keep your interests and hobbies and you’ll be more interesting to, and interested in, your partner. It sounds like a cliché, something your mom, wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend told you every time you were crying over a broken heart, but it’s true ‒ you must love yourself before you can love anyone else. Be comfortable with yourself, even when you ’ re having a bad day. Know who you really are, deep down inside, and know what you want to do with your life. Being...
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JEALOUSY AND LOVE: IS IT JUSTIFIED?

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  Many people glamourize jealousy by saying it’s a sign of love. It’s not! It’s a sign of insecurity and reflective of seeing your partner as an object to be possessed. It’s a negative emotion stemming from both desire and insecurity, but not love. Conversely, if you love the fact someone is possessive about you, it stems from your debilitating need to be loved and be taken care of, even at the cost of your freedom. Jealousy and possessiveness are not safe cocoons. It’s a prison where the prisoner has to behave as per the rules and insecurities of the jailor or be punished for it. There is no space or regard for trust, individuality or personal growth. Your love for your partner and your desire to see them happy will be used as a means to whip you into subservience and to force you to bow down to their demons. None of it is healthy, desirable or productive. None of it will create harmony and long term happiness. To truly love is to trust. To allow those you love to blossom, be th...
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LOVE FADES......

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When you feel like you have to love, that you have to do things to make your partner happy, that you have to be a certain way to get the love you want—then the feeling of authentic love starts to disintegrate and die. Sounds harsh, but it's true. Love needs space to grow. Like fire, love needs a little breathing room. Stifle it and it burns right out. The reason love dies under heavy limitations is because limits are counter to our very nature, which is growth. We can't help but expand. We can't help but evolve. We can't help but to change. The process of growth cannot be stopped within us, nor should it be. So when limits, expectations, and “should” are placed on us by our partners and by ourselves, we automatically want to break-out of them. Now, let's be honest, we all do this. We expect them to act a certain way; we expect ourselves to act a certain way. We feel like they should [fill in the blank]; we feel like we should [fill in the blank]. I could go on ...
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