HEALING


                                                    HEALING.....

As a lady, the first thing to put in place before you get married is to HEAL. Heal completely from your past. Heal from the dysfunctionality of your background. Heal from your EX.

The journey of HEALING is between you and God, not between you and your husband. There are wounds that only God can help you mend. The danger of not healing before you say I DO is that you begin to bleed on the one who did not injure you.

One of the signs that you need healing is that you overreact. Overreacting to things is a sign that you are seeing someone else in your spouse. Sometimes you are not responding to the person he reminds you of. You are seeing your DAD in him, you are seeing your EX in him, you are seeing the person who tried to rape you in him and you are seeing the person who shattered your heart in him.

Sometimes, your husband sounds like the person who hurt you most in life. He talks like the person or looks like the person.

Imagine what will happen if you don't HEAL, you will even hate your child for looking like the person. There are many people who are smiling and posting pictures on line, but they are not fine in the real world. They are going through a serious emotional trauma...

These days, most people live in a world full of FEAR and UNCERTAINTY. And WHY? Because their heart is full of hurts and regrets.

Listen, if you keep carrying the load the heartbreak or emotional trauma, you keep hurting yourself the more. Remember that FORGIVENESS is not for the person who has offended you, but it is for you...yes, i mean YOU and so also is your HEALING.

You will be like; “what have I done wrong?” I was so in love with this man, now he is all gone. I will need someone by my side in the long run to guide me through, because every time I’m weak, there is always a strong one”. I know someone might say “Sir, your rich words are not for the poor me. I won’t feel any better after reading this"...i know you won't feel any different. The change has to be from your INNER SELF.

When you refuse to forgive your Ex-partner, you begin to see every other person as the same. No new thing will make sense to you. Not because he is not trying, it's because your heart is occupied with HATE. When you forgive, you open yourself to love, peace and long-life.

Above all, let your forgiveness be divine. Most times, when you say you've forgiven someone, it is not always from your heart. Keep praying that God should always give you the spirit to heal and never to hate.

Thank you for your time. God bless you all.

 #SMG ✌



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