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  Hi friends, It’s been a while here and thank you for always reading through this blog. This post will teach you and open your heart to things that will help your relationship. First, let me ask you this questions; Are you dating? Are you in a relationship? It’s quite difficult to answer these questions if in the first place you are not sure of the differences between them. The difference between dating and being in a relationship comes down to intention along with the trajectory. Specifically, dating is all about getting to know someone romantically, while being in a relationship means that dating partners have already committed to one another and intend to (hopefully) cultivate their connection at least for the time being. Your charge is to learn about the other person and discover if you are compatible if you share values and interests, and if you are sexually attracted to the person, how you feel when you are together and apart. There is no or less commitment to dating. ...

True love is magical. True love is mystical . . .  Right? Well, kind of. But it’s more than that, as anyone in a relationship can tell you. Read on to find things you need to know about true love. Don’t fall in love, or think you’re in love, just because you want to find yourself. Your identity is not to be someone’s other half ,  it i s to be yourself! Don ’ t get so swept up in your partner that you become them. You don’t need to be the number one fan of their favorite band or read all the books they read. Keep your interests and hobbies and you’ll be more interesting to, and interested in, your partner. It sounds like a cliché, something your mom, wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend told you every time you were crying over a broken heart, but it’s true ‒ you must love yourself before you can love anyone else. Be comfortable with yourself, even when you ’ re having a bad day. Know who you really are, deep down inside, and know what you want to do with your life. Being...

  Many people glamourize jealousy by saying it’s a sign of love. It’s not! It’s a sign of insecurity and reflective of seeing your partner as an object to be possessed. It’s a negative emotion stemming from both desire and insecurity, but not love. Conversely, if you love the fact someone is possessive about you, it stems from your debilitating need to be loved and be taken care of, even at the cost of your freedom. Jealousy and possessiveness are not safe cocoons. It’s a prison where the prisoner has to behave as per the rules and insecurities of the jailor or be punished for it. There is no space or regard for trust, individuality or personal growth. Your love for your partner and your desire to see them happy will be used as a means to whip you into subservience and to force you to bow down to their demons. None of it is healthy, desirable or productive. None of it will create harmony and long term happiness. To truly love is to trust. To allow those you love to blossom, be th...

When you feel like you have to love, that you have to do things to make your partner happy, that you have to be a certain way to get the love you want—then the feeling of authentic love starts to disintegrate and die. Sounds harsh, but it's true. Love needs space to grow. Like fire, love needs a little breathing room. Stifle it and it burns right out. The reason love dies under heavy limitations is because limits are counter to our very nature, which is growth. We can't help but expand. We can't help but evolve. We can't help but to change. The process of growth cannot be stopped within us, nor should it be. So when limits, expectations, and “should” are placed on us by our partners and by ourselves, we automatically want to break-out of them. Now, let's be honest, we all do this. We expect them to act a certain way; we expect ourselves to act a certain way. We feel like they should [fill in the blank]; we feel like we should [fill in the blank]. I could go on ...

A male child is mostly fond of his mother. I mean, the mother has been there all through his life, taking care of him, praying for him, encouraging him, supporting him and been there for him generally. A man will first tell his mother about his girlfriend before his father is aware. And so the guy gets married and it’s hard to move to the new realization that he now has a wife, who is to step in and take a baton. The baton, I mean now while some men can easily move, others can’t, well depending on how close they are to their mothers. So I mean, time and patience is required here on the wife’s part to help the guy transit and the guy must be willing to transit as well. So, let me address the ladies, if you really want your man to transit in time. What a man wants in a woman are; a man really want a spiritual woman, intellectual need and of course physical needs. Ladies, listen to this carefully, you can only LEARN your man and not CHANGE him. I mean, since you’ve been trying to chan...