Life

When you feel like you have to love, that you have to do things to make your partner happy, that you have to be a certain way to get the love you want—then the feeling of authentic love starts to disintegrate and die. Sounds harsh, but it's true. Love needs space to grow. Like fire, love needs a little breathing room. Stifle it and it burns right out. The reason love dies under heavy limitations is because limits are counter to our very nature, which is growth. We can't help but expand. We can't help but evolve. We can't help but to change. The process of growth cannot be stopped within us, nor should it be. So when limits, expectations, and “should” are placed on us by our partners and by ourselves, we automatically want to break-out of them. Now, let's be honest, we all do this. We expect them to act a certain way; we expect ourselves to act a certain way. We feel like they should [fill in the blank]; we feel like we should [fill in the blank]. I could go on ...

A male child is mostly fond of his mother. I mean, the mother has been there all through his life, taking care of him, praying for him, encouraging him, supporting him and been there for him generally. A man will first tell his mother about his girlfriend before his father is aware. And so the guy gets married and it’s hard to move to the new realization that he now has a wife, who is to step in and take a baton. The baton, I mean now while some men can easily move, others can’t, well depending on how close they are to their mothers. So I mean, time and patience is required here on the wife’s part to help the guy transit and the guy must be willing to transit as well. So, let me address the ladies, if you really want your man to transit in time. What a man wants in a woman are; a man really want a spiritual woman, intellectual need and of course physical needs. Ladies, listen to this carefully, you can only LEARN your man and not CHANGE him. I mean, since you’ve been trying to chan...