Life

SECRETS AND LIES      Keeping secrets from your partner is a deliberate intent to keep information hidden. This choice is usually because we fear the impact on yourself or other informations we may have. What often underlies secrecy is a fear of judgement and reprisals. A lie is a deliberate act of deceiving another person by hiding the truth or trying to manufacture an untruth. Secrets and Lies jeopardizes trust in our relationships and can cause irreparable damages in the following ways; Ø   Trust and Vulnerability will be blocked. Ø   Need to constantly cover up and watch your back leads to tension. Ø   Easier to blame a partner than recognize your choice in maintaining secrecy. Ø   It jeopardizes sexual intimacy.      Being honest in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to share every single detail all the time. Knowing what to share and what not to share is an important communication skill in a relati...

     Here is the story of a young boy who stopped talking to his father at a very tender age of 20. Who was always about violent on him and his mother. ''I ran out of the house when I was 20 years old. My mum was always the victim of his assaults. I tried rescuing my mum from his beatings but it never worked out. Few years after I ran out, I got a call from a hospital that my mum was hospitalized and diagnosed with ruptured kidney. I was given the address of the hospital and I went to see my mum. I got there and I saw my mum on the hospital bed, helpless, depressed and at the point of death. I couldn't hold my tears, I went to see the doctor who was in charge of her for more information about her health. The doctor told me to pay a huge sum of money for a kidney transplant and the surgery will be done in Germany. Thank God I was able to save some because I got a good job after I left the house. I took all my savings and paid the necessary dues for the surgery.   ...