BEFORE YOU SAY “I DO’’


 BEFORE YOU SAY “I DO’’
    A lot of people say I DO, but what they really mean is that I WILL TRY. If you say I DO, it means, no excuse, no back-off and no divorce. You don’t and can never have an agenda of what your marriage will look like. Another mistake people make is that they don’t have a full disclosure about everything. Before you get married, you have to put everything on the table, no secrets, let he/she know about your financial status, etc. Because we can never keep secrets for life. It will be great if your secrets are let out before you get married, rather than secrets popping up after some years in marriage and it will definitely cause regrets. But if they can marry you with all your garbage, then everything will be alright.
       Before you agree to marry someone, you must let everything out. Your likes, dislikes, DOs and DONTs. Never make that mistake of saying “when we get to that bridge, we will cross it”. That will be a total disaster……never pretend.
         The truth is “not everyone you are attracted to, you are compatible with. Because it looks good doesn’t mean it is meant for you”. You can be attracted to the way he / she looks, but that doesn’t mean you can be with him or her. Before you say I DO…..are you sure about it?
Thank you for your time reading this piece. And I hope you’ve gained from it too.
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  1. Seidina Umar JuniorNovember 19, 2019 at 12:46 AM

    It's just as i wanted it to be, you just disclosed the fact in "I do" and I really enjoyed reading it.
    Thanks so much for it. ��❤️

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  2. UnknownNovember 19, 2019 at 3:26 AM

    Wonderful piece, young folks and intending couple need to read this. Keep up the good work.

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