WHY DO MARRIAGES FAIL?



WHY DO MARRIAGES FAIL?
      HI Guys……..Guess it’s been a while I posted on my blog. My sincere apologies. I am working on something which I know you guys would really love. Now let’s talk……….
      Marriage is a divine institution created by God. It is the joining or coming together of a man and a woman to become one. Every marriage is not a bed of roses. Some lived happily ever after and some crashes along the way.
      Let’s try and look at some of the reasons why some marriages fail. It is fine to list some reasons, like; Lack of Trust, Infidelity, Lack of tolerance, Miscommunication Lack of Respect, Financial Incapability, Immaturity, etc. it is so good to say all these things, but have we gone to the foundation?
Here, we are going to talk about some foundational problems why some marriages fail.
1.       LACK OF SELF-LOVE: Love your life so much as if it means a lot to you. Do not have unrealistic goals in your marriage. Always be happy. Ask yourself this question, ‘’do I love myself?’’ When you love yourself, there are somethings you won’t accept from another person, because you know who you are. Ask yourself why God created you. Find your purpose in life. Listen, there are so many married people praying to be single. Why? Because they never loved themselves at the beginning. There are some things you need to build now when you are single before you have a relationship. Develop yourself first before you want to try and develop another person.
2.       PEOPLE DON’T LOVE EACH-OTHER: People have personal projects about marriages. People don’t love each other the way it ought to be. If you love someone and he/she doesn’t love you back and you keep pressurizing them, it means you don’t love them. Listen, ‘’people love the idea of marriage, but they don’t love the person they are married to’’. Ask yourself, ‘’do I love this individual I’m married to or I love the idea of marriage? Am I into this because others are doing it?
3.       PEOPLE DON’T BUILD THEMSELVES: What you are meant to do in your marriage should be learnt from your mentors. There should always be a role model figure that you look up to in your marriage. Here is the thing, ‘’Women learn more from what they hear, but Men learn more with what they see’’. Build yourself. Build your financial Capability. Don’t marry a Man with Potentials, marry someone with Patterns. Don’t just love BIG DREAMS, love BIG ACTIONS.
     Remember this; ‘’EVERY FORNICATOR IS AN ADULTERER TRAINEE’’. It is easier not to drink a bottle of coke when you have not opened it. At times, the problem might not be the problem, you might be the problem.
    Thank you for taking your time reading this wonderful article. I hope you’ve learnt a lot from these few points. I know our marriages will take a new turn, if we all work on ourselves.
I am anticipating responses from you.
Enjoy the rest of your day…………….

YOURS SINCERELY,
MELVIN

Comments

  1. UnknownFebruary 3, 2020 at 1:47 AM

    Do I love the person I am married to is a great question which mist be answered. If in the negative and you're already married, then, work on it and if otherwise, then make every effort to love your partner. Great piece SMG

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  2. Jay UsmanFebruary 3, 2020 at 2:59 AM

    Building ourselves is very vital, you can't give what you don't have. How do you build someone when you haven't first built yourself. I like this piece SMC.

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  3. BabaFebruary 3, 2020 at 1:59 PM

    Enter your comment...I must commend you for the job weldon really that was impressive, more power to your elbow bro

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  4. UnknownFebruary 3, 2020 at 9:41 PM

    NATTY-RAY
    Great one, this is so Amazing

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  5. ShrekFebruary 4, 2020 at 12:49 AM

    The problem might not be the problem!! You might actually be the problem in that relationship. Take out time to examine yourself and close all loopholes around.
    Nice one Melvin, let's have more of these words.

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    1. Sheyi Melvin GiwaFebruary 4, 2020 at 3:43 AM

      Thank you so much Shrek......I would definitely give you more words.

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  6. AnonymousJuly 1, 2020 at 9:36 AM

    ‘’EVERY FORNICATOR IS AN ADULTERER TRAINEE’’.
    This is true. It's just like sex is a spiritual thing n it's connection between two people and when there's fornication it is only God that can free that person from not being an ADULTERER adulteress.
    Good work.

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