JEALOUSY AND LOVE: IS IT JUSTIFIED?

 




Many people glamourize jealousy by saying it’s a sign of love. It’s not! It’s a sign of insecurity and reflective of seeing your partner as an object to be possessed. It’s a negative emotion stemming from both desire and insecurity, but not love. Conversely, if you love the fact someone is possessive about you, it stems from your debilitating need to be loved and be taken care of, even at the cost of your freedom.

Jealousy and possessiveness are not safe cocoons. It’s a prison where the prisoner has to behave as per the rules and insecurities of the jailor or be punished for it. There is no space or regard for trust, individuality or personal growth. Your love for your partner and your desire to see them happy will be used as a means to whip you into subservience and to force you to bow down to their demons. None of it is healthy, desirable or productive. None of it will create harmony and long term happiness. To truly love is to trust. To allow those you love to blossom, be the best they can be. To be protective and not possessive because being protective is to care about them and being possessive is all about catering to the self. 

Why do people get jealous when they are in love? A little jealous is healthy in a relationship. It is always good to know that someone is afraid to loose you. 

People say that being jealous  is an act of showing how much you love that person. I say that if you love and care for that person, you should also learn how to trust. Love shouldn't be about jealousy or anything like that. It should be about commitment and being able to trust that person. If you can't have that from a get-go, there is a problem.

Jealousy is like a disease, Love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other or assumes that the greater the Love, the greater the Jealousy.

People should be together because they support each other, bring out the best in each other and to be the best they can be. Don’t punish people for loving you, allow their love to help you conquer your doubts.

Hope you had a great time reading this wonderful piece? Thank you for your time.

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Comments

  1. RhodahMarch 16, 2022 at 2:47 AM

    Thanks for sharing sir it's Nice

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  2. BlysMarch 16, 2022 at 3:01 AM

    Great piece

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  3. UnknownMarch 16, 2022 at 5:14 AM

    Thanks for sharing this lovely and educative great piece more inspiration sir

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  4. UnknownMarch 16, 2022 at 8:09 AM

    Okay, nice one

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  5. Maureen ShalewaMarch 16, 2022 at 10:18 AM

    Jealousy is a disease... It's totally normal, but when it becomes too much, it becomes a poison, and it kills.. Thank you papa for this!!

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