ARE YOU DATING OR YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP?

 



Hi friends,

It’s been a while here and thank you for always reading through this blog. This post will teach you and open your heart to things that will help your relationship.

First, let me ask you this questions; Are you dating? Are you in a relationship? It’s quite difficult to answer these questions if in the first place you are not sure of the differences between them.

The difference between dating and being in a relationship comes down to intention along with the trajectory. Specifically, dating is all about getting to know someone romantically, while being in a relationship means that dating partners have already committed to one another and intend to (hopefully) cultivate their connection at least for the time being. Your charge is to learn about the other person and discover if you are compatible if you share values and interests, and if you are sexually attracted to the person, how you feel when you are together and apart. There is no or less commitment to dating. Dating is usually a shorter period; being in a relationship can go on infinitely.

When we date, we try to present our best selves. We imagine and fantasize about what life would be like together, living together and maybe even married and having children. Problems with dating, especially, arise when partners are not straight with each other about their intentions or are altogether duplicitous (they are players). Some people might date purely for sex, while others may date with the goal of actually finding a serious, committed relationship. So you and your bae may be dating and be in a relationship because you are still getting to know one other in a romantic sense.

Usually, the word “DATING” stops applying to partners in a relationship who are living together. At this point, they’re considered instead to be “cohabitating”. Unsurprising to anyone who’s been burned in love, although generally not as muted and muddy as in dating, intention can even be problematic in relationships. For instance, dedication is psychologically defined as a strong desire to continue a relationship into the future.

Relationships, where one partner is much more dedicated than the other, can be especially complicated not to mention heartbreaking. As evidence of this, I’ve had conversations with Married men and women who are tired of their marriages, WHY? The flow of love is one-sided.

Similarly, sex won’t transform a relationship into something that it’s not. Meanwhile, being in a relationship can be vague and can be used to define a multitude of different interactions. There are platonic relationships, polyandrous relationships, and everything in between. Being in a relationship with someone can mean you’re moving towards marriage or enjoying each other’s company for the time being.

Finally, know that just because you’re sleeping with someone doesn’t mean you’re in a relationship. Someone can be in a relationship and not be dating, for example, friends with benefits, but someone who is dating has given their relationship somewhat more of a definition.

Thank you for the time in reading this. Hope you’ve been able to learn the differences between DATING & BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP.

Kindly drop your comments in the box below.

“LOVE IS A BEAUTIFUL THING”

 

© SMG 2022


Comments

  1. AnonymousAugust 26, 2022 at 3:00 AM

    wow... seriously ion know the difference before...

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    1. Sheyi Melvin GiwaAugust 26, 2022 at 3:12 AM

      Glad you were able to learn from it. Thank you for the Comment.

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