ANGER


 

A man who had been bitten by a rattlesnake was rushed to the hospital. When he

asked the doctor ‘’is it life threatening?’’ the doctor replied and said, ‘’the bite is not 

but the poison is”. The bites you suffer at the hands of others are painful and 

upsetting, but they are lethal. What happens to you normally does not destroy you, 

but what happens to you afterwards can.
        
       Like venom, bitterness first poisons your mind, then your relationship with people. It causes you to replay the hurt until it controls you, stealing the future God has for you. But it doesn’t have to be that way. You can overcome bitterness everyday of your life. Forgive and keep forgiving until it no longer bothers you.
     What causes BITTERNESS? Anger that you allow, takes residence in your thoughts and life. God’s purpose for anger is to motivate you to tap into the power solving problems, otherwise they become permanent. Solving the problems resolves and relieves your anger. But anger can become long term bitterness when you fixate on it or when you start thinking on “I can never forget what he/she did to me”, thereby making you hostile, critical, blaming and punitive. You ask yourself, “Can I really stop my anger?” Yes, you can. But you have to forgive yourself by asking for God’s help.
     The power of forgiveness is an awesome thing. No relationship can survive without it, much less thrive. Whatever the issue, forgiveness sets both sides free, takes a weapon out of Satan’s hand and opens the door for GOD to go work on that situation. The truth is, “it is easier to forgive an enemy you seldom see than a loved one you have to live with every day”. But it is something you must do. GEORGE HERBERT once said, “He who cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself”.
       Teach your children how to forgive. If you expose them to anger, make sure that they are also around when you show grace. Teach them how to deal with issues without attacking the person. Let them know that a difference of opinion can lead to a decision that makes things better for everyone and that as a family member, you can be wrong and still be treated right. This also means you should teach them things you were never taught. Learn from your parent’s mistakes…….don’t pass them unto your children. Forgive when you are hurt and don’t take your resentments to bed. 
 I'm so grateful for the responses i have received so far from you. Thank you so much for the words of encouragement and prayers. 
Thank you for taking time out reading this wonderful piece. Kindly drop your comments in the comment box below and i will definitely respond to it. 
I love you. 
God bless you all.

Comments

  1. PK's BanterDecember 10, 2019 at 4:12 AM

    Great post, sir. How does one absolutely forgive without remembering past hurt?

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    1. Sheyi Melvin GiwaDecember 10, 2019 at 4:25 AM

      Thank you Peniel's Blog. There are various ways someone can absolutely forgive without remembering past hurt....i will just give you few tips:

      1. Make the decision to let it go: Things don’t disappear on their own. You need to make the commitment to “let it go.” If you don’t make this conscious choice up-front, you could end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from this past hurt.

      2. Express your pain and your responsibility: Express the pain the hurt made you feel, whether it’s directly to the other person, or through just getting it out of your system (like venting to a friend, or writing in a journal, or writing a letter you never send to the other person). Get it all out of your system at once. Doing so will also help you understand what — specifically — your hurt is about.

      3. Forgive him/her and yourself:Forgiveness isn’t a sign of weakness. Instead, it’s simply saying, “I’m a good person. You’re a good person. You did something that hurt me. But I want to move forward in my life and welcome joy back into it. I can’t do that fully until I let this go".
      I hope this will really help in answering your question.

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  2. UnknownDecember 10, 2019 at 1:48 PM

    A good way to forgive is also not to refer to past issues again and never to refer to it.

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